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Our personal style is evident in our behaviors – the foods we eat, the clothes we wear, the words we speak, and the way we spend our time. Next time you overeat or berate your body, drop the endings of your words or swear like a sailor, follow a fashion trend only to realize you’ve become a fashion victim, procrastinate or chicken out on your workout or a meeting, try something new to improve your behavior. Don’t blame yourself or somebody else. Blame your environment. You are a product of your environment, so control it. Yeah, right!
Decades of research in the behavioral sciences reveals that we have far less control over our behavior than we think. We generally assume that our behavior is far more conscious or self-directed than it really is. Truth be known, it’s not. “No,” that doesn’t let us off the hook in terms of our responsibility for our behavior. “And yes,” there are many things in life that are beyond our control. Nonetheless, we are far more affected by small changes in our physical environment than we realize or understand. This knowledge fits in nicely with the notion that the most effective way to control your life and behavior is to take control of the things that control you. That said, the easiest thing you can control is your environment and your most immediate environment is your clothing-much like a second skin. Something we can control is the clothing we buy and choose to wear each day, as well as our grooming habits.
Rarely do people think of changing their physical environment as a way to change their behavior. We see others misbehave and we expect them to change, not their environment. We get so caught up in the human side of behaviors we completely miss the impact of subtle yet powerful environmental factors such as our clothes and grooming aids. It’s a lot easier to change things, like clothes, than it is to change people. Even when we do recognize the impact our clothing is having on us, most people rarely know what to do about it. That’s where I come in with accurate image information and relevant wardrobe strategies that are timely, easy to apply, and support your goals.
Lest you doubt that clothes affect you, be aware that our thought processes and related behaviors are based on physical experiences. Consider, for example, scientific research projects that studied the effects of wearing a white lab coat. It turns out that if you wear a white lab coat, like one belonging to a dietitian or a doctor, your ability to pay attention increases, you function at a higher level, and others see you as more intelligent or professional. Wow, no small change there!
I continually emphasize that what you wear affects the way you think, the way you feel, the way you act or behave, and only then the way others react or respond to you.
Knowing this, I highly recommend that you dress on purpose, with positive intent.
Choose to wear only the clothes that will best influence or develop your best behavior. Empower yourself with clothes and grooming aids that work for you.
- You don’t want to overeat? Wear a somewhat tight belt reminding you to eat smaller portions. And, while you’re at it, get empty-calorie snack foods out of the house or apartment. Use smaller plates, forks, and spoons. It works.
- Don’t want to berate your body? Do “Dress Slim” with enough ease in the fit of your clothes and you’ll like the way you look.
- Don’t’ want to slur your speech or swear like a sailor? Do dress up a little more formally. You’ll stand taller and speak more clearly, purposefully, and politely.
- Don’t want to become a fashion victim? Do become more knowledgeable, discover and define more about yourself, then develop a style that reflects YOU.
- Don’t want to miss an upcoming networking event? Start early and dress up enough to look and feel sharp, ready to go.
- Do want to work out more often, not give in or give up? Do outfit yourself in bold active wear. Dressed ready to exercise, you’ll feel more like getting into it.
- Do want to accomplish more at work? Do dress like you mean business and you will.
|My daughter, granddaughters, and daughter-in-law all “dress the part” to motivate and facilitate their 50K workout.
The best way to control your behavior – and your life – is to take control of the things that control you-starting with your immediate environment. Even a small improvement in your dress and grooming can affect a large improvement in your behavior. Make your clothes part of your positive personal style, propelling you toward success in all you do.