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Our personal style is evident in our behaviors – the foods we eat, the clothes we wear, the words we speak, and the way we spend our time.  Next time you overeat or berate your body, drop the endings of your words or swear like a sailor, follow a fashion trend only to realize you’ve become a fashion victim, procrastinate or chicken out on your workout or a meeting, try something new to improve your behavior.  Don’t blame yourself or somebody else.  Blame your environment.  You are a product of your environment, so control it.  Yeah, right!

Decades of research in the behavioral sciences reveals that we have far less control over our behavior than we think.  We generally assume that our behavior is far more conscious or self-directed than it really is.  Truth be known, it’s not.  “No,” that doesn’t let us off the hook in terms of our responsibility for our behavior.  “And yes,” there are many things in life that are beyond our control.  Nonetheless, we are far more affected by small changes in our physical environment than we realize or understand.  This knowledge fits in nicely with the notion that the most effective way to control your life and behavior is to take control of the things that control you.  That said, the easiest thing you can control is your environment and your most immediate environment is your clothing-much like a second skin.  Something we can control is the clothing we buy and choose to wear each day, as well as our grooming habits.

Rarely do people think of changing their physical environment as a way to change their behavior.  We see others misbehave and we expect them to change, not their environment.  We get so caught up in the human side of behaviors we completely miss the impact of subtle yet powerful environmental factors such as our clothes and grooming aids.  It’s a lot easier to change things, like clothes, than it is to change people.  Even when we do recognize the impact our clothing is having on us, most people rarely know what to do about it.  That’s where I come in with accurate image information and relevant wardrobe strategies that are timely, easy to apply, and support your goals.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lest you doubt that clothes affect you, be aware that our thought processes and related behaviors are based on physical experiences.  Consider, for example, scientific research projects that studied the effects of wearing a white lab coat.  It turns out that if you wear a white lab coat, like one belonging to a dietitian or a doctor, your ability to pay attention increases, you function at a higher level, and others see you as more intelligent or professional.  Wow, no small change there!

 

I continually emphasize that what you wear affects the way you think, the way you feel, the way you act or behave, and only then the way others react or respond to you.

Knowing this, I highly recommend that you dress on purpose, with positive intent.

Choose to wear only the clothes that will best influence or develop your best behavior.   Empower yourself with clothes and grooming aids that work for you.

  • You don’t want to overeat?  Wear a somewhat tight belt reminding you to eat smaller portions. And, while you’re at it, get empty-calorie snack foods out of the house or apartment.  Use smaller plates, forks, and spoons.  It works.
  • Don’t want to berate your body?  Do “Dress Slim” with enough ease in the fit of your clothes and you’ll like the way you look.
  • Don’t’ want to slur your speech or swear like a sailor?  Do dress up a little more formally.  You’ll stand taller and speak more clearly, purposefully, and politely.
  • Don’t want to become a fashion victim?  Do become more knowledgeable, discover and define more about yourself, then develop a style that reflects YOU.
  • Don’t want to miss an upcoming networking event?  Start early and dress up enough to look and feel sharp, ready to go.
  • Do want to work out more often, not give in or give up?  Do outfit yourself in bold active wear.  Dressed ready to exercise, you’ll feel more like getting into it.
  • Do want to accomplish more at work?  Do dress like you mean business and you will.

 

 
My daughter, granddaughters, and daughter-in-law all “dress the part” to motivate and facilitate their 50K workout.

The best way to control your behavior – and your life – is to take control of the things that control you-starting with your immediate environment.  Even a small improvement in your dress and grooming can affect a large improvement in your behavior.  Make your clothes part of your positive personal style, propelling you toward success in all you do.

Want to know more about Personal Style?  Order Personal Style: What is it? Who Has It? How You Can Have It, Too. Wardrobe Strategy #8 .  Visit our website www.conselle.com or contact us at Conselle, 801-224-1207 or judith@conselle.com.

 

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By Judith Rasband, AICI CIM and Dani Slaugh, Conselle Affiliate

People have asked me, “How do you dare to tell other people what to wear?”  An easy answer, I dare because I care.  And it’s OK for you to care too.  I know first-hand the positive difference discovering your personal style in dress can make in your everyday life.  As I tell my clients, the clothing you wear affects the way you think, the way you feel, the way you act, and then the way others react or respond to you.  Nothing vain or superficial about that!

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With the start of a new school year and the change in seasons coming up, it’s a fine time to take time to care for yourself.  You’ve likely been giving a lot of time and attention to others all summer, perhaps even so much of yourself there’s hardly anything left for you.  It’s time to get in touch with yourself and your spirit, to renew how you think of yourself–your values, personality, and goals for the next few months.  Then give some thought to how you might reflect those aspects of yourself through your clothes and accessories.

 

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Start simple.  Go to a paint store.  Look at the wide range of color chips and identify colors that make your heart sing or make you want to get moving.  Pull your favorite paint chips for future reference and pick just one to work with now.  With this color in mind, shop for a top in that color and wear it with clothes you already own.  Shop for an accessory in that this color. Give yourself a chance to make friends with a new color.  When you feel more adventurous, pair this color with one of your personal body colors–your hair, eyes, skin, or blush color–and shop for a patterned piece of clothing containing both colors, making you part of the color scheme with your clothes.

 

Making little changes in what you wear can add up to a big transformation in how you see yourself and how others see and respond to you.  Yes, you can do this yourself, or you could join us for our 5 day Style For Life Retreat and speed up the process.

  • Take charge of the way you see yourself and others see you
  • Discover, define, and develop your own personal style
  • Zero in on strategies for dressing slim and a fabulous fit
  • Improve your self-presentation
  • Enhance self-image
  • Increase self-confidence
  • Never be a fashion victim again!

Join us at the legendary and luxurious Little America hotel in Salt Lake City, November 17-22, 2014, and discover a New You!  GET MORE INFORMATION HERE or call Kathy at 801-224-1207.

 

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By Judith Rasband, AICI CIM and Dani Slaugh, Conselle Affiliate

 

 

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Dress from White Azalea

 

When contemplating a dress or skirt purchase, consider the width of the skirt in relation to its length. Attractiveness is a matter of achieving good balance and proportions. Generally straight skirts may be shorter to the knee and flared or fuller skirts may be longer from the knee. Flared skirts are generally flattering to most women. Short full or bouffant skirts worn by adult women “of a certain age,” tend to look childish, silly, and out of proportion, being too wide for their shorter length. The dress to the left begins to look more like a ballet tutu.

For a slimmer look, straight skirts in larger sizes can be tapered slightly, about a half to one inch on each side from waist to hem. Tightly gathered, straight-hanging dirndl skirts are most attractive hemmed below the calf to balance the width.

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By Judith Rasband, AICI CIM and Dani Slaugh, Conselle Affiliate

Tuesday, January 14, 2014, the Expressive Image Therapy Association was organized, creating the foundation for a new field of study, counseling, and treatment of many mental health disorders.  

Acting as the association’s first president is Judith Rasband, Kathryn Wolters as vice president,  and Dani Slaugh as secretary.  Charter members include Sarita Singh, Dawn Nieto, Rebecca S. Boles, Leslie Anne Jeanfreaw, Kathleen M. Doctor, Cristina C. Johnson, and Ann Johnson.

Expressive Image Therapy Association founding members from left; Dani Slaugh, Cristina Johnson, Kathleen Doctor, Dawn Nieto, Camilla, Rebacca Boles, Leslie Jeanfreaw, Sarita Singh, Judith Rasband, and Kathryn Wolters

Expressive Image Therapy Association founding members from left; Dani Slaugh, Cristina Johnson, Kathleen Doctor, Dawn Nieto, Camilla Owens, Rebecca Boles, Leslie Jeanfreaw, Sarita Singh, Judith Rasband, and Kathryn Wolters

What is Expressive Image Therapy?

Expressive image therapy is the use of the elements of image—dress, grooming, and body language—to facilitate non-image treatment goals.  It is a creative collaboration between the client and the therapist.  In essence, it is a clinical collaboration of art and science.  The role of image therapy within a multi-disciplinary treatment program is to complement and enhance the clinical work being done in individual, group, and family therapy; the role of the image therapist is to have a comprehensive understanding of individual treatment goals and progress in order to support this within the context of individual or group image therapy sessions.

Expressive image therapy is a mental health profession in which clients, guided by the image therapist, use clothing and accessories, grooming, and body language to:

  • explore their thinking and feelings as well as their behavior
  • develop increased self awareness
  • work out emotional conflicts
  • better manage behavior and possible addictions
  • increase self-esteem or sense of self worth
  • increase social skills
  • reduce anxiety
  • improve reality orientation

A major goal in image therapy is to improve or restore a client’s ability to function effectively and his or her sense of personal well-being.  Image therapy requires knowledge of visual design in dress and grooming including the reactive process.  It requires knowledge of human development, physiology and anatomy, psychological and sociological aspects of image, as well as psychological counseling theories and techniques.

Conselle is proud to be a supporter of this innovative approach to expressive therapy! For those who want to know more about this new professional field call 801-224-1207 or e-mail judith@conselle.com.

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Michael J. Fox rocked the denim look in Back to the Future.  Not only is Fox back on the screen but so is the denim look he made so popular in the film.  And just in time too.  Is anyone else tired of looking at motley, ripped up jeans fresh from a knife fight or vampire brawl?

Take it from the Fox, and try this alternative to the vampire slayer trend.  Look for decorative stitching at the knee, reminiscent of jodhpurs (pronounced \ˈjäd-(ˌ)pər\), riding pants, or moto jeans. Keep in mind that the eye is drawn to contrast.  While this style is generally fitted, the stitching at the knee draws attention to the narrow part of the legs.  If you find that the hip area pops or looks unbalanced, try wearing a tunic that flows smoothly over the hips.

Ralph Lauren jodhpur jeans

Ralph Lauren jodhpur jeans

Anthropologie, moto jeans

Anthropologie, moto jeans

H&M moto jeans

H&M moto jeans

A word of caution.  This trend is youthful, fun, and playful.  Everything Michael J. Fox represented in his classic film.  Before you wear these jeans out in public, make sure the relaxed style fits the occasion.

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By Judith Rasband, AICI CIM and Dani Slaugh, Conselle Affiliatec55be33505f36fabab4dcda5e4e8ee79

Why is it that so few people know how to dress well?  Why doesn’t everyone look terrific?  Excuses.  Endless excuses are given to justify or unload responsibility for a poor appearance.  To begin, we have to overcome the Puritan holdover that say looking great is vain and somehow a sin.

Typical Excuse / Attitude

  1. “I don’t want to look fake.” Too vain.
  2. “I could be more attractive if I had the money.”  Too expensive.
  3. “I don’t have time to shop, I’m just too busy.” Too time consuming.
  4. “I would look better if I weren’t so heavy.  When I lose…” Too much weight.
  5. “My mother never taught me about fashion.  I would look better if I knew how.”  Too much to learn.
  6. “I’ve been dressing myself every day since kindergarten.  What’s there to know about clothes?”  Too much for granted.
  7. “I couldn’t care less.  Clothes really don’t matter.”  Too little value.
  8. “It’s the designers and fashion of today that make me look so bad.”  Too ridiculous.
  9. “It’s all a matter of opinion.  Anything goes.” Or, “It’s so confusing, I don’t know what to believe anymore.” Too many opinions.
  10. “I’m overwhelmed by so much to choose from”  Too many options.
  11. “I don’t want to even look at myself.”  Too personal.
  12. “It’s so much work, I give up before I begin.”  Too hard.
  13. “If I look good, people notice me, then they expect too much from me.”  Too much attention.

Forget the excuses.  There are no valid excuses.  Conselle has the solution to every excuse.  We will take out the fear, the frustration, and put back in the fun and logic of fashion.  Yes, fun and logic can intertwine to create a harmonious, confident, fabulous you.  Are you or someone you know living in fear?  We can help.  Book an appointment for a Discovery Call and receive a free snag repair tool from our Fashion Emergency Tool Kit.

Schedule your appointment with Conselle here!

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Bush Poplin Safari Jacket and Cotton Oxford Shirt from TravelSmith

Bush Poplin Safari Jacket and Cotton Oxford Shirt from TravelSmith

By Judith Rasband, AICI CIM and Dani Slaugh, Conselle Affiliate

What are the characteristics that define your dad?  Rugged?  This jacket will work for him.  Refined?  It will work for him too.  Articulate?  Check.  Adventurous?  Yep.  You name the guy, this jacket will work for him.  Why?  Because it’s a classic.  Let’s take a look at what makes a classic piece.

Classics 101
  • Classics satisfy many clothing needs for many people.
  • Classics are attractive on most figures.
  • Most people have places to wear classics.
  • Most people can afford to buy classics.
  • Classics are core pieces, retaining their appeal and ability to be worn for seven to ten years or more, without looking dated.
If you think the world of your dad, give him the gift that will take him places for a long time.  Give him the classic safari jacket.

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