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By Judith Rasband, AICI CIM and Dani Slaugh, Conselle Affiliate

People have asked me, “How do you dare to tell other people what to wear?”  An easy answer, I dare because I care.  And it’s OK for you to care too.  I know first-hand the positive difference discovering your personal style in dress can make in your everyday life.  As I tell my clients, the clothing you wear affects the way you think, the way you feel, the way you act, and then the way others react or respond to you.  Nothing vain or superficial about that!


With the start of a new school year and the change in seasons coming up, it’s a fine time to take time to care for yourself.  You’ve likely been giving a lot of time and attention to others all summer, perhaps even so much of yourself there’s hardly anything left for you.  It’s time to get in touch with yourself and your spirit, to renew how you think of yourself–your values, personality, and goals for the next few months.  Then give some thought to how you might reflect those aspects of yourself through your clothes and accessories.



Start simple.  Go to a paint store.  Look at the wide range of color chips and identify colors that make your heart sing or make you want to get moving.  Pull your favorite paint chips for future reference and pick just one to work with now.  With this color in mind, shop for a top in that color and wear it with clothes you already own.  Shop for an accessory in that this color. Give yourself a chance to make friends with a new color.  When you feel more adventurous, pair this color with one of your personal body colors–your hair, eyes, skin, or blush color–and shop for a patterned piece of clothing containing both colors, making you part of the color scheme with your clothes.


Making little changes in what you wear can add up to a big transformation in how you see yourself and how others see and respond to you.  Yes, you can do this yourself, or you could join us for our 5 day Style For Life Retreat and speed up the process.

  • Take charge of the way you see yourself and others see you
  • Discover, define, and develop your own personal style
  • Zero in on strategies for dressing slim and a fabulous fit
  • Improve your self-presentation
  • Enhance self-image
  • Increase self-confidence
  • Never be a fashion victim again!

Join us at the legendary and luxurious Little America hotel in Salt Lake City, November 17-22, 2014, and discover a New You!  GET MORE INFORMATION HERE or call Kathy at 801-224-1207.


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By Judith Rasband, AICI CIM and Dani Slaugh, Conselle Affiliate



White Azalea

Dress from White Azalea


When contemplating a dress or skirt purchase, consider the width of the skirt in relation to its length. Attractiveness is a matter of achieving good balance and proportions. Generally straight skirts may be shorter to the knee and flared or fuller skirts may be longer from the knee. Flared skirts are generally flattering to most women. Short full or bouffant skirts worn by adult women “of a certain age,” tend to look childish, silly, and out of proportion, being too wide for their shorter length. The dress to the left begins to look more like a ballet tutu.

For a slimmer look, straight skirts in larger sizes can be tapered slightly, about a half to one inch on each side from waist to hem. Tightly gathered, straight-hanging dirndl skirts are most attractive hemmed below the calf to balance the width.

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By Judith Rasband, AICI CIM and Dani Slaugh, Conselle Affiliate

Tuesday, January 14, 2014, the Expressive Image Therapy Association was organized, creating the foundation for a new field of study, counseling, and treatment of many mental health disorders.  

Acting as the association’s first president is Judith Rasband, Kathryn Wolters as vice president,  and Dani Slaugh as secretary.  Charter members include Sarita Singh, Dawn Nieto, Rebecca S. Boles, Leslie Anne Jeanfreaw, Kathleen M. Doctor, Cristina C. Johnson, and Ann Johnson.

Expressive Image Therapy Association founding members from left; Dani Slaugh, Cristina Johnson, Kathleen Doctor, Dawn Nieto, Camilla, Rebacca Boles, Leslie Jeanfreaw, Sarita Singh, Judith Rasband, and Kathryn Wolters

Expressive Image Therapy Association founding members from left; Dani Slaugh, Cristina Johnson, Kathleen Doctor, Dawn Nieto, Camilla Owens, Rebecca Boles, Leslie Jeanfreaw, Sarita Singh, Judith Rasband, and Kathryn Wolters

What is Expressive Image Therapy?

Expressive image therapy is the use of the elements of image—dress, grooming, and body language—to facilitate non-image treatment goals.  It is a creative collaboration between the client and the therapist.  In essence, it is a clinical collaboration of art and science.  The role of image therapy within a multi-disciplinary treatment program is to complement and enhance the clinical work being done in individual, group, and family therapy; the role of the image therapist is to have a comprehensive understanding of individual treatment goals and progress in order to support this within the context of individual or group image therapy sessions.

Expressive image therapy is a mental health profession in which clients, guided by the image therapist, use clothing and accessories, grooming, and body language to:

  • explore their thinking and feelings as well as their behavior
  • develop increased self awareness
  • work out emotional conflicts
  • better manage behavior and possible addictions
  • increase self-esteem or sense of self worth
  • increase social skills
  • reduce anxiety
  • improve reality orientation

A major goal in image therapy is to improve or restore a client’s ability to function effectively and his or her sense of personal well-being.  Image therapy requires knowledge of visual design in dress and grooming including the reactive process.  It requires knowledge of human development, physiology and anatomy, psychological and sociological aspects of image, as well as psychological counseling theories and techniques.

Conselle is proud to be a supporter of this innovative approach to expressive therapy! For those who want to know more about this new professional field call 801-224-1207 or e-mail judith@conselle.com.

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Michael J. Fox rocked the denim look in Back to the Future.  Not only is Fox back on the screen but so is the denim look he made so popular in the film.  And just in time too.  Is anyone else tired of looking at motley, ripped up jeans fresh from a knife fight or vampire brawl?

Take it from the Fox, and try this alternative to the vampire slayer trend.  Look for decorative stitching at the knee, reminiscent of jodhpurs (pronounced \ˈjäd-(ˌ)pər\), riding pants, or moto jeans. Keep in mind that the eye is drawn to contrast.  While this style is generally fitted, the stitching at the knee draws attention to the narrow part of the legs.  If you find that the hip area pops or looks unbalanced, try wearing a tunic that flows smoothly over the hips.

Ralph Lauren jodhpur jeans

Ralph Lauren jodhpur jeans

Anthropologie, moto jeans

Anthropologie, moto jeans

H&M moto jeans

H&M moto jeans

A word of caution.  This trend is youthful, fun, and playful.  Everything Michael J. Fox represented in his classic film.  Before you wear these jeans out in public, make sure the relaxed style fits the occasion.

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By Judith Rasband, AICI CIM and Dani Slaugh, Conselle Affiliatec55be33505f36fabab4dcda5e4e8ee79

Why is it that so few people know how to dress well?  Why doesn’t everyone look terrific?  Excuses.  Endless excuses are given to justify or unload responsibility for a poor appearance.  To begin, we have to overcome the Puritan holdover that say looking great is vain and somehow a sin.

Typical Excuse / Attitude

  1. “I don’t want to look fake.” Too vain.
  2. “I could be more attractive if I had the money.”  Too expensive.
  3. “I don’t have time to shop, I’m just too busy.” Too time consuming.
  4. “I would look better if I weren’t so heavy.  When I lose…” Too much weight.
  5. “My mother never taught me about fashion.  I would look better if I knew how.”  Too much to learn.
  6. “I’ve been dressing myself every day since kindergarten.  What’s there to know about clothes?”  Too much for granted.
  7. “I couldn’t care less.  Clothes really don’t matter.”  Too little value.
  8. “It’s the designers and fashion of today that make me look so bad.”  Too ridiculous.
  9. “It’s all a matter of opinion.  Anything goes.” Or, “It’s so confusing, I don’t know what to believe anymore.” Too many opinions.
  10. “I’m overwhelmed by so much to choose from”  Too many options.
  11. “I don’t want to even look at myself.”  Too personal.
  12. “It’s so much work, I give up before I begin.”  Too hard.
  13. “If I look good, people notice me, then they expect too much from me.”  Too much attention.

Forget the excuses.  There are no valid excuses.  Conselle has the solution to every excuse.  We will take out the fear, the frustration, and put back in the fun and logic of fashion.  Yes, fun and logic can intertwine to create a harmonious, confident, fabulous you.  Are you or someone you know living in fear?  We can help.  Book an appointment for a Discovery Call and receive a free snag repair tool from our Fashion Emergency Tool Kit.

Schedule your appointment with Conselle here!

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Bush Poplin Safari Jacket and Cotton Oxford Shirt from TravelSmith

Bush Poplin Safari Jacket and Cotton Oxford Shirt from TravelSmith

By Judith Rasband, AICI CIM and Dani Slaugh, Conselle Affiliate

What are the characteristics that define your dad?  Rugged?  This jacket will work for him.  Refined?  It will work for him too.  Articulate?  Check.  Adventurous?  Yep.  You name the guy, this jacket will work for him.  Why?  Because it’s a classic.  Let’s take a look at what makes a classic piece.

Classics 101
  • Classics satisfy many clothing needs for many people.
  • Classics are attractive on most figures.
  • Most people have places to wear classics.
  • Most people can afford to buy classics.
  • Classics are core pieces, retaining their appeal and ability to be worn for seven to ten years or more, without looking dated.
If you think the world of your dad, give him the gift that will take him places for a long time.  Give him the classic safari jacket.

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By Judith Rasband, AICI CIM and Dani Slaugh, Conselle AffiliateImage

Waiting in line at the grocery store, I overheard bits of a conversation in the adjoining line.   “You look pretty today,” said the friendly grocery checker to a customer she seemed to know.  “Oh, come on,” the woman answered in disbelief.  “I look awful and you know it.”  How many times has someone told you that you looked great and you responded with something like that…or like, “Me?  Pretty?  Oh my hair is such a mess!”  These are typical responses with which compliments are so often met.  Hasn’t anyone been taught that the proper response to a compliment is a courteous “thank you?”  Common sense may say that it’s rude to contradict people who go out of their way to give a compliment.  But it’s become common practice to dispute the flattering comment lest we be considered conceited, bragging or even dishonest.  Is it possible that our casual and unpretentious American attitude toward life, combined with our direct manner and lack of ritual response has made us uncomfortable when we are complimented?  Could it be that our insecurities surface and we answer with an almost automatic and flippant denial?

Many of us, when we put ourselves down, actually imagine that we are being polite.  We attempt to put others at ease or boost them up, by pointing out that we, too, have our flaws.  But what makes us assume that others are in such a sad state themselves that they’ll get a boost from comparing us negatively to themselves?  I know that when attractive friends and acquaintances begin to bemoan about how ugly their hair is, or how fat they are getting, I simply feel irritated, not buoyed up by some sudden pleasure over my own superiority.   Regardless of the cause behind our comments, when I hear myself and others thoughtlessly and continually apologizing or putting ourselves down for nothing I have concluded the response is simply due to bad habit.  And not necessarily evidence of insecurity or inadequacy, so much as thoughtless habit.  And if it’s mainly a matter of habit, it shouldn’t be that difficult to overcome.

Take a few moments, at home, driving in the car, wherever, and think through what you might feel comfortable saying the next time you receive a compliment.  You could smile a big smile and practice saying, “Why, thank you.”  You might make someone’s day by saying, “Thanks, you just made my day.”  Or have some fun by smiling, sighing and saying, “Say it again.”  If you prefer, simply smile in response and enjoy the good that others see in you.

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