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A little blush is inexpensive, fast, easy and enlivens your look!

Our personal style is evident in our behaviors – the foods we eat, the clothes we wear, the words we speak, and the way we spend our time.  Next time you overeat or berate your body, drop the endings of your words or swear like a sailor, follow a fashion trend only to realize you’ve become a fashion victim, procrastinate or chicken out on your workout or a meeting, try something new to improve your behavior.  Don’t blame yourself or somebody else.  Blame your environment.  You are a product of your environment, so control it.  Yeah, right!

Decades of research in the behavioral sciences reveals that we have far less control over our behavior than we think.  We generally assume that our behavior is far more conscious or self-directed than it really is.  Truth be known, it’s not.  “No,” that doesn’t let us off the hook in terms of our responsibility for our behavior.  “And yes,” there are many things in life that are beyond our control.  Nonetheless, we are far more affected by small changes in our physical environment than we realize or understand.  This knowledge fits in nicely with the notion that the most effective way to control your life and behavior is to take control of the things that control you.  That said, the easiest thing you can control is your environment and your most immediate environment is your clothing-much like a second skin.  Something we can control is the clothing we buy and choose to wear each day, as well as our grooming habits.

Rarely do people think of changing their physical environment as a way to change their behavior.  We see others misbehave and we expect them to change, not their environment.  We get so caught up in the human side of behaviors we completely miss the impact of subtle yet powerful environmental factors such as our clothes and grooming aids.  It’s a lot easier to change things, like clothes, than it is to change people.  Even when we do recognize the impact our clothing is having on us, most people rarely know what to do about it.  That’s where I come in with accurate image information and relevant wardrobe strategies that are timely, easy to apply, and support your goals.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Lest you doubt that clothes affect you, be aware that our thought processes and related behaviors are based on physical experiences.  Consider, for example, scientific research projects that studied the effects of wearing a white lab coat.  It turns out that if you wear a white lab coat, like one belonging to a dietitian or a doctor, your ability to pay attention increases, you function at a higher level, and others see you as more intelligent or professional.  Wow, no small change there!

 

I continually emphasize that what you wear affects the way you think, the way you feel, the way you act or behave, and only then the way others react or respond to you.

Knowing this, I highly recommend that you dress on purpose, with positive intent.

Choose to wear only the clothes that will best influence or develop your best behavior.   Empower yourself with clothes and grooming aids that work for you.

  • You don’t want to overeat?  Wear a somewhat tight belt reminding you to eat smaller portions. And, while you’re at it, get empty-calorie snack foods out of the house or apartment.  Use smaller plates, forks, and spoons.  It works.
  • Don’t want to berate your body?  Do “Dress Slim” with enough ease in the fit of your clothes and you’ll like the way you look.
  • Don’t’ want to slur your speech or swear like a sailor?  Do dress up a little more formally.  You’ll stand taller and speak more clearly, purposefully, and politely.
  • Don’t want to become a fashion victim?  Do become more knowledgeable, discover and define more about yourself, then develop a style that reflects YOU.
  • Don’t want to miss an upcoming networking event?  Start early and dress up enough to look and feel sharp, ready to go.
  • Do want to work out more often, not give in or give up?  Do outfit yourself in bold active wear.  Dressed ready to exercise, you’ll feel more like getting into it.
  • Do want to accomplish more at work?  Do dress like you mean business and you will.

 

 
My daughter, granddaughters, and daughter-in-law all “dress the part” to motivate and facilitate their 50K workout.

The best way to control your behavior – and your life – is to take control of the things that control you-starting with your immediate environment.  Even a small improvement in your dress and grooming can affect a large improvement in your behavior.  Make your clothes part of your positive personal style, propelling you toward success in all you do.

Want to know more about Personal Style?  Order Personal Style: What is it? Who Has It? How You Can Have It, Too. Wardrobe Strategy #8 .  Visit our website www.conselle.com or contact us at Conselle, 801-224-1207 or judith@conselle.com.

 

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By Judith Rasband, AICI CIM and Dani Slaugh, Conselle Affiliate

People have asked me, “How do you dare to tell other people what to wear?”  An easy answer, I dare because I care.  And it’s OK for you to care too.  I know first-hand the positive difference discovering your personal style in dress can make in your everyday life.  As I tell my clients, the clothing you wear affects the way you think, the way you feel, the way you act, and then the way others react or respond to you.  Nothing vain or superficial about that!

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With the start of a new school year and the change in seasons coming up, it’s a fine time to take time to care for yourself.  You’ve likely been giving a lot of time and attention to others all summer, perhaps even so much of yourself there’s hardly anything left for you.  It’s time to get in touch with yourself and your spirit, to renew how you think of yourself–your values, personality, and goals for the next few months.  Then give some thought to how you might reflect those aspects of yourself through your clothes and accessories.

 

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Start simple.  Go to a paint store.  Look at the wide range of color chips and identify colors that make your heart sing or make you want to get moving.  Pull your favorite paint chips for future reference and pick just one to work with now.  With this color in mind, shop for a top in that color and wear it with clothes you already own.  Shop for an accessory in that this color. Give yourself a chance to make friends with a new color.  When you feel more adventurous, pair this color with one of your personal body colors–your hair, eyes, skin, or blush color–and shop for a patterned piece of clothing containing both colors, making you part of the color scheme with your clothes.

 

Making little changes in what you wear can add up to a big transformation in how you see yourself and how others see and respond to you.  Yes, you can do this yourself, or you could join us for our 5 day Style For Life Retreat and speed up the process.

  • Take charge of the way you see yourself and others see you
  • Discover, define, and develop your own personal style
  • Zero in on strategies for dressing slim and a fabulous fit
  • Improve your self-presentation
  • Enhance self-image
  • Increase self-confidence
  • Never be a fashion victim again!

Join us at the legendary and luxurious Little America hotel in Salt Lake City, November 17-22, 2014, and discover a New You!  GET MORE INFORMATION HERE or call Kathy at 801-224-1207.

 

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By Judith Rasband, AICI CIM and Dani Slaugh, Conselle Affiliate

Hannah Kearney, Olympic Freestyle Skier

Hannah Kearney, Olympic Freestyle Skier

Have you seen the freestyle skiing in the Olympics?  It’s a rush!   Skiers appear to effortlessly hop through a rugged course pitted with large moguls, hit a jump where they perform some kind of super twisted flip, land it perfectly on a vertical incline and then do it all over again.  The gold medal is awarded to the skier who is both fast, aerodynamic and acrobatic.  The clock shows who is the fastest, and the panel of judges decides who is the most acrobatic and smooth on those land-mines they call bumps.  Mogul scoring is based on turns (50% of score), air (25% of score), and speed (25% of score).  With the turns counting as half of the overall score, they better be good!  What constitutes a good turn?  Knees close together and pointed downhill.  You better believe the athletes want the judge’s attention to be on their knees.  Mogul skiers understand something very important that many of us “don’t know that we know”.   Attention goes to contrast.  The light / dark contrast of Hannah Kearney’s knees, (above), will draw the attention of judges and spectators.

Bob Kraft - New England Patriots Chairman and CEO

Bob Kraft – New England Patriots Chairman and CEO

Mogul skiing is not the only time when light / dark contrast is strategically placed.  Consider your stereotypical CEO – dark jacket, white shirt, and tie.  Where is the contrast here?  In the image above, your eye is drawn to the contrast between the jacket, shirt collar and the brightly colored red tie, all working together to bring attention to Mr. Kraft’s face, for the point of better communication.   Yes, this CEO wants you to focus on what he has to say.  It seems that he has a panel of judges to impress as well.  How about you?

For more information on the language of clothes, visit www.Conselle.com or www.StyleByDani.com.

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By Judith Rasband, AICI CIM and Dani Slaugh, Conselle Affiliate

Tuesday, January 14, 2014, the Expressive Image Therapy Association was organized, creating the foundation for a new field of study, counseling, and treatment of many mental health disorders.  

Acting as the association’s first president is Judith Rasband, Kathryn Wolters as vice president,  and Dani Slaugh as secretary.  Charter members include Sarita Singh, Dawn Nieto, Rebecca S. Boles, Leslie Anne Jeanfreaw, Kathleen M. Doctor, Cristina C. Johnson, and Ann Johnson.

Expressive Image Therapy Association founding members from left; Dani Slaugh, Cristina Johnson, Kathleen Doctor, Dawn Nieto, Camilla, Rebacca Boles, Leslie Jeanfreaw, Sarita Singh, Judith Rasband, and Kathryn Wolters

Expressive Image Therapy Association founding members from left; Dani Slaugh, Cristina Johnson, Kathleen Doctor, Dawn Nieto, Camilla Owens, Rebecca Boles, Leslie Jeanfreaw, Sarita Singh, Judith Rasband, and Kathryn Wolters

What is Expressive Image Therapy?

Expressive image therapy is the use of the elements of image—dress, grooming, and body language—to facilitate non-image treatment goals.  It is a creative collaboration between the client and the therapist.  In essence, it is a clinical collaboration of art and science.  The role of image therapy within a multi-disciplinary treatment program is to complement and enhance the clinical work being done in individual, group, and family therapy; the role of the image therapist is to have a comprehensive understanding of individual treatment goals and progress in order to support this within the context of individual or group image therapy sessions.

Expressive image therapy is a mental health profession in which clients, guided by the image therapist, use clothing and accessories, grooming, and body language to:

  • explore their thinking and feelings as well as their behavior
  • develop increased self awareness
  • work out emotional conflicts
  • better manage behavior and possible addictions
  • increase self-esteem or sense of self worth
  • increase social skills
  • reduce anxiety
  • improve reality orientation

A major goal in image therapy is to improve or restore a client’s ability to function effectively and his or her sense of personal well-being.  Image therapy requires knowledge of visual design in dress and grooming including the reactive process.  It requires knowledge of human development, physiology and anatomy, psychological and sociological aspects of image, as well as psychological counseling theories and techniques.

Conselle is proud to be a supporter of this innovative approach to expressive therapy! For those who want to know more about this new professional field call 801-224-1207 or e-mail judith@conselle.com.

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Coldwater Creek ruana

Coldwater Creek ruana

By Judith Rasband, AICI CIM and Dani Slaugh, Conselle Affiliate

Looking for an accessory to add that finishing touch to your holiday look?  Try the classic ruana.

According to Wikipedia, “a ruana is a poncho-style outer garment typical of the Andes regions of Venezuela and Columbia, particularly in the Boyaca department and Antioquia.  According to Proexport, the official Colombian agency in charge of international tourism, foreign investment, and non-traditional exports, the word ruana comes from the Chibcha  meaning “Land of Blankets,”  used to refer to the woolen fabrics manufactured by the Muisca natives.”

For those of us who live outside of the Andes, a ruana is not only warm but wearable art.  This third layer piece will get you noticed!  Wear it for both formal and casual occasions over silk or cotton turtlenecks with flared skirts or well-fitted jeans.

A ruana is a free-flowing wrap with an open front, similar to a large scarf.  You can wear the ruana long in front and open like shawl, or throw one or both sides over your shoulder(s) for a more romantic or dramatic cape.  The key is to allow the fabric to completely cover your shoulders.

There are many options in stores, just right for holiday occasions or gift giving.  One size fits all and floats over the figure.  It’s fabric with function as well as beauty and elegance that is just plain fun to wear!

Apparently they are also fun to look at, because we just can’t get enough of them!  Here are a few more ruana looks….

Free People ruana

Free People

Peruvian Connection

Peruvian Connection

Coldwater Creek ruana

Coldwater Creek

Brooks Brothers

Brooks Brothers

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By Judith Rasband, AICI CIM and Dani Slaugh, Conselle Affiliate

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Well they’re at it again.  Mass media is telling us what the must-haves are for Fall.  Us magazine’s September issue lists 10 items on their “It List” that are either over the top expensive, fit very few figure types, are just plain silly….or all three.   I mean seriously, a silk paisley “pajama blouse” for $298?  Or a fitted leather dress for $1,095?  Not only do most people have better things to spend a thousand dollars on, but how many could actually fit into the dress.  How about a gold and bronze sequin jacket?  I’m pretty sure most of us will survive the winter without one of those.  Instead of calling the next set of trends the “must-haves” or “it list”, let’s call it what it is.  Crazy trends that some may try, but most will pass on.

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By Judith Rasband, AICI CIM and Dani Slaugh, Conselle Affiliate

Donna Karan wide leg trousers

Donna Karan wide leg trousers

It is refreshing to see wide leg pants coming back to the stores.  The triangular shape of the garment is wonderful on most figure types, adding balance to wider hips and shoulders, whereas super skinny jeans tend to be limited to fewer body configurations.  The statement is true, “they may be called skinny jeans, but that doesn’t mean you look skinny in them.”

Are you ready to give the skinny jeans a rest for a day or two?  Great!  Try wide leg trousers, but watch the hem length.  Why?  Because when the hem hits the floor…

  • You look like you’re stuck in hole.
  • The hem gets rough, raw and ragged making you look generally sloppy.
  • It’s hard to walk without tripping and looking like an idiot!
Katherine Hepburn wearing wide leg trousers

Katherine Hepburn wearing wide leg trousers

To get the right length, you may need to hem the pants.  Tailors are a good option, your local dry cleaners may a tailor on staff that would help you.  Another option is to, yes, hem the pants yourself, which isn’t as difficult as it may seem.  Wide leg trousers are a classic, as shown here by Katherine Hepburn, (right).  Notice where the hem of her trouser hits on her foot…. it’s right across the middle, there is one break point, and she looks confident and lovely.  She’s not worried about the hem of her pants catching on the bottom of her shoe, she doesn’t look sloppy, and certainly doesn’t look like she’s stuck in a hole.  She is poised and powerful, that’s why she and the trousers are a classic.

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