By Judith Rasband, AICI CIM
To get the gift you need, you need to start early, to discover for yourself and then teach your family what you do like in clothes — what works for you, for your personal style, roles, and goals.
- How to Get the Gift You Need #1: Learn to drop a few careful hints about your needs and preferences. Don’t keep your desires to yourself. “Daydream” out loud instead. While watching television, it’s fine to hint to your family, “It would be wonderful to have a pretty nightgown like that,” — a nice durable shirt, a versatile….. whatever you need.
- How to Get the Gift You Need #2: Comment periodically on clothing worn by others — “I really like…..,” or “That doesn’t work for me because…..” Always include that one-liner why, and gradually family members will gain a better understanding of your needs and preferences.
- How to Get the Gift You Need #3: Let them know if your tastes have changed. How about, “I used to wear a lot of navy blue, but lately I prefer dark hunter green,” and state why. For those larger, more expensive presents, say it right out. “I could really use a good leather bag,” or “I’ve always wanted a camel-hair jacket,” and again, say why it would work for you.
- How to Get the Gift You Need #4: As you browse through a magazine or catalog, show your family some pictures of the clothes you like. Give that one-liner reason about why it’s so right for you, such as, “Look, here’s exactly what I need. This flared skirt would fit my figure more easily and be easier to move in at work — better than a straight skirt.” When window shopping, tell your sister or sweetheart, “I’d love a nice shirt like that, but you know, that’s the kind of thing I would never buy for myself.
How to Get the Gift You Need #5: Be right up front about your needs and goals. Keep a wardrobe planning list and a “style file” of magazine and catalog clippings, illustrating desired items. Go through your style file periodically, discarding pictures as you refine your personal style. Then share the pictures with your family once in a while. I predict the people who’ve been wondering what to get you will want to help you achieve your goals by giving you something on your list.
So if all this good advice doesn’t get you what you really need this Christmas, don’t give up. Next year, simply resort to my favorite “no fail” gift giving strategy. Make sure you do know your personal style, needs, and even wants — find the pictured item in a catalog, circle the size, turn down the corner of the page, then put it on the kitchen counter. If you start early enough, you’ll likely forget all about it, not feel bad if you don’t get it, but be honestly surprised if someone follows through and gets you exactly what you want. They’ll be delighted and so will you.
Copyright Judith Rasband and Conselle L.C. 2009
Judith Rasband is the Image Expert and would love to help you identify your unique personal style! Visit www.conselle.com or call 801-224-1207 to learn more.